Striking that BALANCe in R/Ships..

Was talking to K de other day...apparently his rship is reaching a stagnant point. Not cos they've been together for a long time but cos the feelings and efforts ain't reciprocal...


ok i shall do tis instead..using an illustration ya??



As the saying goes, it takes 2 hands to clap and rship is all about giving and taking. There should be a balance b/w this 2...




It's just like a conversation, it's a 2 WAY communication just like a ball game.
You throw the ball to ur partner..your partner throw the ball back to you, Doesn't matter how he/she does it.
He/She can ROLL de Ball, THROW it, KICK it, BOUNCE it..DRIBBLE it..Whatever..as long as de ball gets back to de other party... this keeps de game rolling...

i.e it doesn't mean that u've to return a gift/meal everytime he/she gives or cook for u. Small actions such as a simple Thank you with a Warm Hug or kiss shall suffice too. At least it made the other party feel appreciated. (pssst..it's easy for a ger to pls a guy u noe...*sniggers*)

This is what's gona happen if the ball continues to be thrown from just a PARTY....

Frustration & Fatigue sets in..he gets upset that he's the only one always giving and trying to keep this rship going... he may even lose faith and enthusiasm to keep this rship going...


At this point..if de girl continues to be like this....



Still yaya...happily receiving all de gifts i.e. Taking all the balls and not throwing it back to de guy,
De guy will run out of all his balls (geezz..wat does tt sounds like? Hahaah!!) one of these days......
Even the machine that shoots out tennis balls during practice needs to be reloaded with balls ya...


AND............=======>>>>

He Finally gave up and stopped shooting balls....


The other party's left with no more balls to catch....i.e no gifts, no concern, no pampering, no food, maybe even losing the whole rship..den she become.....




ARGHH~!!! TOO LATE LIAOZZZZZZZZZZZZz

When one party gives up on a rship..it's very difficult to get it back again. Things will be different..you can't expect him or her to be the same like before...

So..if u treasure your relationship make sure you show appreciation to the things your loved ones have done for you..even a simple THank You n Hug does wonders..

Nobody is obligated to do anything for anybody. ..so keep de ball rolling ya???

I was in the girl's shoes before, any one way ball game ain't fun..no matter which direction it's thrown at...at least i'm having a fun, interesting ball game right now...it's a 2 way game with balls flying all over the place...

and..I ALways WIN OK!!!!! haahahah

P/S: Drea shall not be liable for anything shld she decides to dump u after reading this. ..HAHAHHA........