suddenly i felt that there has been so many things i would like to do..but it seems like it's been so difficult getting down to doing it..
i would love to bring the dogs or even tabbie alone to the dog run
i would love to spend a day at tanjong beach with the dogs
i would love to spend one of de weekends blading at east coast
but i chose to waste my life and weekend away
suddenly i felt that there's been a lost of life..
suddenly i felt that there's no direction in life anymore..
i'm getting bored...real bored.
depressed...real depress
Wednesday, April 30, 2008
Tuesday, April 08, 2008
Lucky Star for Furby
this is for furby..hope that everything will be fine for her May's surgery.May she be blessed with a speedy recovery.
ah yee, u must take care also ok?? been so long since we catch up.
i've never forget how u used to be there for me ... :)
if there's anything i can help with, please do let me know.
Monday, April 07, 2008
Love Language #2: Quality Time
My version of #1 is really summarized, in face gary chapman included a case study and some notes for all of us to take note off, but it's not polite for me to palagarize everything in my blog.
So for those of you who's really keen, do read this book ok?
Now let's get to #2: Quality time.
How many times you hear this? "it's quality over quantity!!" if u think u've spent enuff time with ur partner and why is she still not satisfied, then think again? how did you spend the time together?
were you talking to her while reading the papers? were you talking to her while watching tv? is that considered time spent with her without paying 100% attention on her?
By quality time, its means giving someoned your UNDIVIDED ATTENTION.
it doesn't mean sitting on the sofa watching tv and talking, but with the tv off, both looking at each other, giving the 100% full attention, talking!
it means going for a walk, just the 2 of you, going for dinner and looking at each other when you eat with the conversation going on.
When u sit on de sofa talking to ur partner , giving her 20 minutes of ur full attention and she does likewise, you're giving each other 20 mins of your life, and u'll never have this 20 minutes again! it is a powerful communicator of love.
There's this case study of a husband who is too busy with work than to spend time with his wife, then Gary Chapman asked him a question that probably got him thinking when he's telling Gary how he climbed the organizational ladder to feed the family:
"Do you want to be up there alone? or do you want to be there with your wife and children?"
how many times have we used work as an excuse to spending time with our loved ones? now think again, even if u are a high flyer, what's the point when u have no loved ones around you?
" A Central Aspect of Quality time is Togetherness
I do not mean proximity
Togetherness has to do with focused attention"
and of cos gary suggested him to take time off to bring his wife and children out etc. their love life made a tremendous improvment! his wife is no longer always nagging at him and being unhappy and seeing his work as a threat.
There's anor story whereby a man approached gary and told him what a fool he realised he was.
His wife will always come home from work, telling him her problems at work, and he will always advise her on what he think she should do"
now u guyz are thinking nothing wrong with that right?
everynite de same thing happened, naturally de man is upset with his wife for not listening to his advice. He told her not to expect anymore sympathy from him since she refused to heed his advice and she would not have to live with these problems if she heed his advices.
the next time she try to bring up the problem, he told her that he is not going to listen to her since she's not following his advice.
After the divorce, then he realised that his wife did not want advice from him when she tell him his problems
she wanted sympathy, wanted him to listen to her, to give her attention, to let her know he understand the hurt and pressure she's going through, she need that moral support and re assureness from her husband.
Is this situation familar? it's very familar and close to my heart, de whole of chapter 2 actually.
i love to whine and i'm always very critical, but when i'm whining, sometimes i just need some sympathy and reassurance.
then again, who is there to understand the need? who is there to provide the undivided attention for me?
"many of us are trained to analyze problems and create solutions
we forgot that marriage is a relationship, not a project or problem to be solved"
The last of this chapter talks about quality activities, there will be different activities that a couple enjoys.
but it doesnt hurt to give in to each other and do what each other like to do together.
well i played WOW for de very obvious reasons, he's crazy over them and spent so much time with the game.
before i started to play, i can see that he is really hoping that one of these days i can play together with them.
and so i did in the end..so as to do something i know he'd enjoy.
So for those of you who's really keen, do read this book ok?
Now let's get to #2: Quality time.
How many times you hear this? "it's quality over quantity!!" if u think u've spent enuff time with ur partner and why is she still not satisfied, then think again? how did you spend the time together?
were you talking to her while reading the papers? were you talking to her while watching tv? is that considered time spent with her without paying 100% attention on her?
By quality time, its means giving someoned your UNDIVIDED ATTENTION.
it doesn't mean sitting on the sofa watching tv and talking, but with the tv off, both looking at each other, giving the 100% full attention, talking!
it means going for a walk, just the 2 of you, going for dinner and looking at each other when you eat with the conversation going on.
When u sit on de sofa talking to ur partner , giving her 20 minutes of ur full attention and she does likewise, you're giving each other 20 mins of your life, and u'll never have this 20 minutes again! it is a powerful communicator of love.
There's this case study of a husband who is too busy with work than to spend time with his wife, then Gary Chapman asked him a question that probably got him thinking when he's telling Gary how he climbed the organizational ladder to feed the family:
"Do you want to be up there alone? or do you want to be there with your wife and children?"
how many times have we used work as an excuse to spending time with our loved ones? now think again, even if u are a high flyer, what's the point when u have no loved ones around you?
" A Central Aspect of Quality time is Togetherness
I do not mean proximity
Togetherness has to do with focused attention"
and of cos gary suggested him to take time off to bring his wife and children out etc. their love life made a tremendous improvment! his wife is no longer always nagging at him and being unhappy and seeing his work as a threat.
There's anor story whereby a man approached gary and told him what a fool he realised he was.
His wife will always come home from work, telling him her problems at work, and he will always advise her on what he think she should do"
now u guyz are thinking nothing wrong with that right?
everynite de same thing happened, naturally de man is upset with his wife for not listening to his advice. He told her not to expect anymore sympathy from him since she refused to heed his advice and she would not have to live with these problems if she heed his advices.
the next time she try to bring up the problem, he told her that he is not going to listen to her since she's not following his advice.
After the divorce, then he realised that his wife did not want advice from him when she tell him his problems
she wanted sympathy, wanted him to listen to her, to give her attention, to let her know he understand the hurt and pressure she's going through, she need that moral support and re assureness from her husband.
Is this situation familar? it's very familar and close to my heart, de whole of chapter 2 actually.
i love to whine and i'm always very critical, but when i'm whining, sometimes i just need some sympathy and reassurance.
then again, who is there to understand the need? who is there to provide the undivided attention for me?
"many of us are trained to analyze problems and create solutions
we forgot that marriage is a relationship, not a project or problem to be solved"
The last of this chapter talks about quality activities, there will be different activities that a couple enjoys.
but it doesnt hurt to give in to each other and do what each other like to do together.
well i played WOW for de very obvious reasons, he's crazy over them and spent so much time with the game.
before i started to play, i can see that he is really hoping that one of these days i can play together with them.
and so i did in the end..so as to do something i know he'd enjoy.
Wednesday, April 02, 2008
sth to sharea: The 5 Love Languages
as we're starting to plan really really slowly for our future, my bro intro this book to me for married couples.
Thought it was quite a good book just that such books are always soooo boring and dry.
So i'm gona take my own sweet time to read and i do believe that most of you will find the pointers useful BUT probably not the patience and time to read right?
Mr. Black for once will never read such books..
so i've decided to summarise each chapter and to share with you guyz on some pointers..
Intro: Keeping De Love Tank Full
"At the heart of mankind's existence is the desire to be intimate and to be loved by another
Marriage is designed to meet that need for intimacy and love"
The writer believed that everyone has a need for love and classified there's basically 5 basic love langauges for each individuals.
Keeping one's emotional love tank full is as important to a marriage as maintaining the proper oil level is to an automobile. Running your marriage on an empty "love tank" could cost more than trying to drive ur car w/o oil.
Chapter 1: Love Language #1 Words of Affirmation
Writer, Gary Chapman, belives that one way to express love emotionally is to use words to build up.
Verbal compliments, words of appreciation are powerful communicators of love..
this i strongly agree!@@!
even simple words such as " you look good in that dress" "i really appreciate u doing the dishes tonight" etc works wonders!
and i'd think especially to women. we've such soft ears and we love to hear such things all the time.
"The object of love is not getting sth you want, but doing sth for the well being of the one you love
It is a fact, however that when we receive affirming word we are then far more likely to be motivated to reciprocate"
how many of us are guilty of taking our partner for granted? i hope you'd take this phrase into heart and rembr, a simple compliment makes the other party feels appreciated and in fact more like to reciprocate!
no doubt we always do things willingly for the well being of our loved ones, and what else is the best way to "reward" us? nothing but a simple compliment does wonders!!!
I'd say simple thank yous to mr. black for the genting trip he's planned, and told him that i really appreciated the effort he's put in planning all these.
u noe, its juz small lil simple things like this..
and of cos i'm still learning.........there're still times i took him for granted.
And of cos, other than just compliments, give your spouse encouraging & kind words as and when they need!
nothing spur them more than their own partner's encouragement.
sometimes i'd have doubts on my job and the ability to perform to standard and do it well.
but mr. black was there, encouraging me, guiding me, having faith in me that i could make my product fly and painting the picture of how everything will be like for me when my products start to fly!
So rembr, simple compliments does wonders to ur relationship! even a simple thank you, i appreciate ur work makes ppl melt at times.....
this is kinda wordy so chapter 1 shall stop here now..look out for de nxt chapter ya?
let me noe if u guyz like all these if not i may stop halfway, kinda tiring leh to summarise and all...LOL
actually the whole chapter is still pretty long with some case study, i'll read through and see if there's any additional points to add on ya..
Thought it was quite a good book just that such books are always soooo boring and dry.
So i'm gona take my own sweet time to read and i do believe that most of you will find the pointers useful BUT probably not the patience and time to read right?
Mr. Black for once will never read such books..
so i've decided to summarise each chapter and to share with you guyz on some pointers..
Intro: Keeping De Love Tank Full
"At the heart of mankind's existence is the desire to be intimate and to be loved by another
Marriage is designed to meet that need for intimacy and love"
The writer believed that everyone has a need for love and classified there's basically 5 basic love langauges for each individuals.
Keeping one's emotional love tank full is as important to a marriage as maintaining the proper oil level is to an automobile. Running your marriage on an empty "love tank" could cost more than trying to drive ur car w/o oil.
Chapter 1: Love Language #1 Words of Affirmation
Writer, Gary Chapman, belives that one way to express love emotionally is to use words to build up.
Verbal compliments, words of appreciation are powerful communicators of love..
this i strongly agree!@@!
even simple words such as " you look good in that dress" "i really appreciate u doing the dishes tonight" etc works wonders!
and i'd think especially to women. we've such soft ears and we love to hear such things all the time.
"The object of love is not getting sth you want, but doing sth for the well being of the one you love
It is a fact, however that when we receive affirming word we are then far more likely to be motivated to reciprocate"
how many of us are guilty of taking our partner for granted? i hope you'd take this phrase into heart and rembr, a simple compliment makes the other party feels appreciated and in fact more like to reciprocate!
no doubt we always do things willingly for the well being of our loved ones, and what else is the best way to "reward" us? nothing but a simple compliment does wonders!!!
I'd say simple thank yous to mr. black for the genting trip he's planned, and told him that i really appreciated the effort he's put in planning all these.
u noe, its juz small lil simple things like this..
and of cos i'm still learning.........there're still times i took him for granted.
And of cos, other than just compliments, give your spouse encouraging & kind words as and when they need!
nothing spur them more than their own partner's encouragement.
sometimes i'd have doubts on my job and the ability to perform to standard and do it well.
but mr. black was there, encouraging me, guiding me, having faith in me that i could make my product fly and painting the picture of how everything will be like for me when my products start to fly!
So rembr, simple compliments does wonders to ur relationship! even a simple thank you, i appreciate ur work makes ppl melt at times.....
this is kinda wordy so chapter 1 shall stop here now..look out for de nxt chapter ya?
let me noe if u guyz like all these if not i may stop halfway, kinda tiring leh to summarise and all...LOL
actually the whole chapter is still pretty long with some case study, i'll read through and see if there's any additional points to add on ya..
Monday, March 24, 2008
De Wonderful Surprise during our Lil GetAway
Finally went to our short getaway with mr.blk and some colleagues, it's been a year since we last had a holiday together.
though it's just a short trip to Genting, Drea is contented, it's not de place, its de person! :)
little did Drea know that a small little getaway turned out to be what a huge surprise trip that changed both our lives~!! lol, ok abit exaggerating here...
have u guessed at it already? hehe read on..
so that was what's in his plan!
we walked over to this unit at a different tower, supposedly to go to one of their rooms for a super yummy steamboat session! but was abit surprised how come it's at a different tower..
after stepping in, i see these decors on in de room...
ain't they sweet??? to actually decor de room even,,*melting melting**
oh so Drea stepped into de room and saw these with her name on it..just when she's figuring out what's all these about..
out sprung mr. black from behind!
LOL, Drea was so taken aback and excited that she actually ask mr.black "y u never squat ar??"
and mr. black really went to squat -_-
of cos it's not enuff for Drea!!
i think mr.black also abit gan chiong, forgot that he need to help me put on de ring ma..kaka
hehe, they are so sweet, they even prepared a bottle of red wine for our celebration!
"Jiao Bei Jiu" keke using de hotel's glass..abit out of place though
then, soon after...
and Drea....is...
ok tat's my fat fingers..
so we're officially now..................!!
Thanks dar for all de things you've planned during this trip, though i not as shocked...but really quite surprised. really touched by ur effort i'll always remeber the part where u knelt down and asked "will u marry me?"
how to say no looking at you like that :)
Yeah! I'll be Mrs. Black sooN! soon we'll have lots of little blacks running around too! hahaha
though it's just a short trip to Genting, Drea is contented, it's not de place, its de person! :)
little did Drea know that a small little getaway turned out to be what a huge surprise trip that changed both our lives~!! lol, ok abit exaggerating here...
have u guessed at it already? hehe read on..
so that was what's in his plan!
we walked over to this unit at a different tower, supposedly to go to one of their rooms for a super yummy steamboat session! but was abit surprised how come it's at a different tower..
after stepping in, i see these decors on in de room...
ain't they sweet??? to actually decor de room even,,*melting melting**
oh so Drea stepped into de room and saw these with her name on it..just when she's figuring out what's all these about..
out sprung mr. black from behind!
LOL, Drea was so taken aback and excited that she actually ask mr.black "y u never squat ar??"
and mr. black really went to squat -_-
of cos it's not enuff for Drea!!
i think mr.black also abit gan chiong, forgot that he need to help me put on de ring ma..kaka
hehe, they are so sweet, they even prepared a bottle of red wine for our celebration!
"Jiao Bei Jiu" keke using de hotel's glass..abit out of place though
then, soon after...
and Drea....is...
ok tat's my fat fingers..
so we're officially now..................!!
Thanks dar for all de things you've planned during this trip, though i not as shocked...but really quite surprised. really touched by ur effort i'll always remeber the part where u knelt down and asked "will u marry me?"
how to say no looking at you like that :)
Yeah! I'll be Mrs. Black sooN! soon we'll have lots of little blacks running around too! hahaha
Monday, March 03, 2008
truly blessed...
haiz. duno what's wrong with me, maybe it's all the accumulated stress and all, i've became such an angry creature, my short temper is back and i tend to lose control n flare..
when i was at my worst, i've someone who stood by me, enduring my nonsense silently.
i didn't realise how unfair i was to mr.black, he have his stress and things to bother about as well, but i only care about my own feelings and my anger.
i continue to flare and show faces as and when i do not like it.
when i was losing control, screaming my head off, there was mr. black, waiting for me to cool off calmly before talking to me nicely, explaining his point and finally told me his true feelings.
i felt so bad, this few weeks i've been taking mr.blk for granted, even though he've made such tremendous effort to change, his temper is nearly gone and he has been the most enduring men i've ever met. for someone with a nasty temper, he's proved to me that anything can be done with perserverance.
i shall set my mind to stretch my limit and to control. i shall never be unfair to someone who's done so much for me and who has tolerated my nonsense for so long.
i'm sorry my darling, my love for u grew deeper with each passing day, it became something more than I can say.
i'll prove to you that i will change too :)
thanks for being by my side, it's the greatest thing that has ever happened to me
and of cos to de zhu's who've shown their lovely concern, love u guyz too! ")
when i was at my worst, i've someone who stood by me, enduring my nonsense silently.
i didn't realise how unfair i was to mr.black, he have his stress and things to bother about as well, but i only care about my own feelings and my anger.
i continue to flare and show faces as and when i do not like it.
when i was losing control, screaming my head off, there was mr. black, waiting for me to cool off calmly before talking to me nicely, explaining his point and finally told me his true feelings.
i felt so bad, this few weeks i've been taking mr.blk for granted, even though he've made such tremendous effort to change, his temper is nearly gone and he has been the most enduring men i've ever met. for someone with a nasty temper, he's proved to me that anything can be done with perserverance.
i shall set my mind to stretch my limit and to control. i shall never be unfair to someone who's done so much for me and who has tolerated my nonsense for so long.
i'm sorry my darling, my love for u grew deeper with each passing day, it became something more than I can say.
i'll prove to you that i will change too :)
thanks for being by my side, it's the greatest thing that has ever happened to me
and of cos to de zhu's who've shown their lovely concern, love u guyz too! ")
Saturday, March 01, 2008
Friday, February 15, 2008
Valentines Day!!!
the dreaded day is here again!
it's so commercialized that you can't help walking around with the feeling of being a carrot..
ok, so drea decided to siam this day by going for her facial..kekek, also no flowers for Drea as really waste of money lorh...
this year more budget, didn't managed to get him a nice gift, so with some great suggestions from De Zhus, Drea decided to make this!!
look! a heart shaped box!! so sweet....wondering what's inside hor..
tadah! ai xin pai lunch!!!
sweet anot ar????
made it with my heart de wor, everything is heartshape, it's hearts within hearts and that egg alone! omg, spent so long frying 1 stoopid egg, which he commented it's way too overcooked!
anyway, i found some of de nail stuff i bought in japan last time....was kinda free back at potong pasir so decided to play with them..
and the end effect......
Chio right????
Chio from far, far from chio..wahahaa
it's so commercialized that you can't help walking around with the feeling of being a carrot..
ok, so drea decided to siam this day by going for her facial..kekek, also no flowers for Drea as really waste of money lorh...
this year more budget, didn't managed to get him a nice gift, so with some great suggestions from De Zhus, Drea decided to make this!!
look! a heart shaped box!! so sweet....wondering what's inside hor..
tadah! ai xin pai lunch!!!
sweet anot ar????
made it with my heart de wor, everything is heartshape, it's hearts within hearts and that egg alone! omg, spent so long frying 1 stoopid egg, which he commented it's way too overcooked!
anyway, i found some of de nail stuff i bought in japan last time....was kinda free back at potong pasir so decided to play with them..
and the end effect......
Chio right????
Chio from far, far from chio..wahahaa
Thursday, February 14, 2008
New Product
my latest pride
hey this little thing is very cool & value for money..the features actually impressed us ok
for a mere $49.90 (list price)
it can be used as:
1) Wireless Headphone
2) FM Radio
3) Wireless Audio Chat Tool
4) Wirless Monitoring
5) Wired Headphone.
the sound is pretty clear and for chatting, it's equally clear too! i tried that with one of our engineers and he's surprised at the sound clarity also.
in case many of you are wondering whats the Wireless Monitoring for, i can actually convert the mic into monitoring, n leave my laptop in the room.
Wearing the headphone, i can hear all sounds coming out from the room!
Cool right? one of the most value for money gadget loh..
probably will run some promo for it for the upcoming show in March 08...
must come and support ok!
hey this little thing is very cool & value for money..the features actually impressed us ok
for a mere $49.90 (list price)
it can be used as:
1) Wireless Headphone
2) FM Radio
3) Wireless Audio Chat Tool
4) Wirless Monitoring
5) Wired Headphone.
the sound is pretty clear and for chatting, it's equally clear too! i tried that with one of our engineers and he's surprised at the sound clarity also.
in case many of you are wondering whats the Wireless Monitoring for, i can actually convert the mic into monitoring, n leave my laptop in the room.
Wearing the headphone, i can hear all sounds coming out from the room!
Cool right? one of the most value for money gadget loh..
probably will run some promo for it for the upcoming show in March 08...
must come and support ok!
Monday, February 04, 2008
New Black Hair!
New year, New Hope, New Luck, New Aspirations, New Love..
oopx..i meant New Passion for Hair style! lol
Drea love black hair, so i did it again! coloured my hair black again..heehee...rebonded the fringe and the sides, cut a little..and DIY black at home.
so much cheaper to do so at home, just that i 1 person colour hair, mr. black's whole family also busy with me! lol...
heheh mr. blk did a good job in helping me colour my hair! minus the fact that he stained my neck, ears and face with the black dye!
and then, mr. blk's mum and bro is trying to suggest ways to get rid of the ugly bad stain! lol...
nontheless the result is BEAUTIFUL!
yeah mr. blk gona claim credit for this....but it's nothing to do with your skill ok? it's de dye!!!
hehe this cute lil rabbit was given by Dear Ella! so sweet..i moved seat so she's like just opposite me...
then one fine day, she just surprised me by popping this little rabbit head from above our shared erm..."balcony"
so out of sudden i see a bunny head staring at me...
that is so sweet.........n cute!! thanks eeeeellllaaa!!!
okok, must thank mr. blk too for the...erm...job well done! hahaha....
oopx..i meant New Passion for Hair style! lol
Drea love black hair, so i did it again! coloured my hair black again..heehee...rebonded the fringe and the sides, cut a little..and DIY black at home.
so much cheaper to do so at home, just that i 1 person colour hair, mr. black's whole family also busy with me! lol...
heheh mr. blk did a good job in helping me colour my hair! minus the fact that he stained my neck, ears and face with the black dye!
and then, mr. blk's mum and bro is trying to suggest ways to get rid of the ugly bad stain! lol...
nontheless the result is BEAUTIFUL!
yeah mr. blk gona claim credit for this....but it's nothing to do with your skill ok? it's de dye!!!
photo not so clear cos this webcam abit lousy, but don't worry this is defnitely not my product ok!
hehe this cute lil rabbit was given by Dear Ella! so sweet..i moved seat so she's like just opposite me...
then one fine day, she just surprised me by popping this little rabbit head from above our shared erm..."balcony"
so out of sudden i see a bunny head staring at me...
that is so sweet.........n cute!! thanks eeeeellllaaa!!!
okok, must thank mr. blk too for the...erm...job well done! hahaha....
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